KEEP IT SHORT
I am learning something when it comes to communicating with my fella.
When I'm talking to my fella, keep it short.
Here is the story:
I invited a friend to go to a sale with me, but had not heard back from her.
While out on my morning walk, and realizing it is a barn sale,
and there may be tons of stuff, and I might need help,
I called my sweet fella to see if he would go if my friend could not.
This was our conversation:
The usual hellos, then...
me "If Sally can't go to the sale with me, will you go?"
His response. "yes".
me "OK thanks"
Then our usual goodbyes, and back to my walk.
'that was short and sweet.'
My normal conversation would have been more like like this:
"Hon, I invited Sally to go to a garage sale with me, but i haven't heard back from her yet and I know you don't really like to go to garage sales, and maybe you have something else you want to do, but this is a barn sale, and it might be really big, and I might need help carrying some stuff, and I would really appreciate it if you would just think about going with me if i don't hear back from her and we wouldn't be gone along time and if you want to watch football or something we could arrange it around the game.
What do you think?"
Ever had that kind of conversation with your guy?
A continuous run-on sentence?
Probably with more information than needed.
Well, I have, many a time.
( although i will say this was a bit of an exaggeration) =0)
What I have learned now is that he quit listening after the first few words, and
had no clue what I was talking about by the time I got done.
So, short, and to the point, that's my point.
Give it a try.
Just ask the question.
Let him think about it.
Then, be sweet, no matter what the answer is.